I finally got my first question. This one comes from Sara all the way in Florida. Ok, let me start out by saying I have gotten this question quite a few times over the years. You meet a new guy and it goes one of two ways. Either he tells you he is with someone but it is not working out, or he doesn’t tell you at all. I will cover the easy one first. If he has a girl already YOU are the other woman. It doesn’t matter if he tells you he is leaving her. Or that now is just not the right time to tell her. Or even the ever popular “We live together and I don’t have anywhere to go” The truth is, if he wanted to be in a relationship with you he would..Period…end of story. If he is still with her in any way shape or form, he is still getting what he wants from you. The last excuse is funny also, every guy I know has at least one friend he could crash with. I know I would let any of my friends stay with me. The other side of the coin is figuring it out if he doesn’t tell you about the other girl. This one is quite tricky actually, as every guy seems to have a system for it. But I will give you a couple of quick tips to help with it
1. If he rarely uses your name when talking to you and instead uses pet names like honey, and baby. This is often used by guys that have more than one girl. The trick is if you use a pet name everytime then you don’t end up slipping up and using the wrong name.
2. If you are only aloud to call and talk to them or stop and see them at certain times. A player runs that game like clockwork. When he needs you is the only time he wants you.
If you read this and find it applies to you then get out now!! If he is cheating on his current girl with you, then he will cheat on you too. There are no exceptions to this rule. Most guys in relationships are only as faithfull as their options, so keep that in mind. I can’t tell you how many times a guy I know has been like “I don’t see why she is pissed, I had a girl when I met her so it is the same thing now” Makes it somewhat of a double standard. I will leave you with this thought for today. Often times we get so excited by the new features of a relationship that we are blind to the emotional price tag